Adoption: What We’ve Learned

If you’ve been here before you probably know that this summer marked the end of one aspect of our adoption: The hope that The Cherubs would consider us their Mom & Dad. Not their only parents, of course, but equally real to the others. We’ve given it four years of solid effort, but alas, no […]

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How I decide what to write

Some of you reached out to check on us after my spate of candid posts about things we’re struggling with. I get it. It’s not typical to see this sort of honesty on the internet these days, especially in circumstances like ours where it would be possible to create an alternative reality online, painting our […]

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Totally Worth It

I had a rough trip down memory lane yesterday as I listened to a podcast about another couple’s experience trying to adopt from foster care.  It reminded me so much of the pain we went through with our beloved first foster daughter, Princess Peach. I thought I’d take this chance to offer a candid take […]

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How it went

You now how sometimes things are just so awful that you’re overcome with inappropriate giggles and can’t stop? That was this past weekend. And by weekend I mean from last Thursday, through to last night at about 7:27pm. So six days of weekend, with me suspended in that high-pitched, wide-eyed, omigoshthiscannotbehappening state of internal disbelief. […]

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When your boat becomes a raft…

Wow, it’s been A LONG TIME since my last post. I used to wonder why adoption bloggers would just disappear, going silent without warning after posting 3-4 times a week for years. Now I get it. Some of you adopted children from foster care in part because of what you read here about our experience. […]

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A Teardrop Year

Holy crap, this year was hard! Funny thing – Last December, I did one of those things where you ask God for a word for the coming year. I heard FUN. Well, clearly that was a mistake, because the word that best defines 2018 for us is CARNAGE. So much blew up or collapsed, I […]

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“Mom, what makes me special?”

#2 Cherub came home from her first day of 7th grade yesterday and asked, “What makes me special?” I thought this might be a preface to her upcoming birthday, but it was homework, a getting-to-know-you worksheet from one of her teachers.  (The worksheet also required her to calculate how many days she’s been alive. As […]

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