Stop the World, I Want To Get Off

I know this will shock you, but not every moment in our household is delightful and heartwarming. This was especially bad in the first year, when I so regularly found myself in situations I had no clue how to handle.      Can you go to some random park with your friends? How should I know? […]

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Middle School Musicals & Blending Families: A Praise Report

This weekend we watched #2 Cherub sing and dance in Oompa Loompa splendor in her middle school musical. It was SPLENDID. The show was hilarious and fun (thankfully less creepy than the Tim Burton movie) and there were some astonishingly good moments for us as a family that I want to capture and remember.  First, […]

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Blizzard Prep

We’re expecting a ridiculous snowstorm tomorrow, so all of my plans for today were put on hold while I crammed three days of getting stuff done out in the world into one. I hope to post a full blog tomorrow (in between shoveling & chasing THIS DOG as she gallops through the snow). For now I […]

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What If My Kids Never Love Me?

Today’s adoption question is from Beth:  How do you deal with the fear and/or reality of the kids not loving/attaching to you, and you to them? *** Before The Cherubs moved in with us, when we were in the transition phase with visits on Wednesday nights & weekends, our kids declared that they were not […]

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Fight For It

Today’s adoption question: What have you learned about yourself through this process?  That I hate conflict. This is not new information. But it feels newish, because sometimes  the term parenting just feels like a code word for “being mad at someone ALL THE TIME.” I just don’t like being angry. My Dad is like this. He honestly […]

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It’s Like Puppy Rescue (?!?)

We have a sweet, smart little girl who comes with her mom to our church Life Group on Wednesday nights.  I’ll call her Awesome Blossom. She is seven, which means that she looks at #2 Cherub (who is twelve) with wide-eyed wonder and longing. The kids usually do their own thing on one side of […]

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Friendships, High School & Advice for #2 Cherub

Two related things happened this weekend: First, I learned that my High School Reunion is coming up this summer (!!!). I’ve never been to one, and I’m surprisingly excited to go. And second, #2 Cherub asked if I would preach a sermon series at church about friendships. Specifically, the friendships that happen during the school […]

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Adoption Shopping

Yesterday I was going through old Amazon orders and came across a whole section I recognized as my “The Cherubs are coming!” shopping frenzy – items we bought hoping they would make the kids feel loved and welcomed, help us get to know each other, and meet practical needs (like how we had one twin […]

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Adoption: The Goodness

Before we adopted, I couldn’t have told you what I’d like about having children. I had hopes, of course. But they were more a sense of what life might feel like rather than specific dreams I could articulate. Once we were IN it, it wasn’t at all as I’d imagined. Some things were harder than […]

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Fielding Questions About WHY

Today’s adoption question is from Sarah: How do you handle questions your kids have about WHY? *** We had a really good plan for this. It fell apart immediately upon impact with reality, but I’ll tell you about it anyway. OUR PLAN was to focus on the positives. Not in a Pollyanna-ish way, but to […]

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