Taking Stock of How We Rocked

images-1I have a bit of a blogging love-fest going on with Amy Gutman these days. I recently “met” her online (we’re meeting in person next month – expect the universe to be GREATLY IMPROVED come mid-September) and discovered her smart writing. This morning, I was looking for something a bit lighter to blog about – we’ve covered some heavy stuff lately, no? – and found this smart idea Amy posted back at the end of 2011, when she refused to close out the year without acknowledging that while it had been a difficult 12 months, she’d still accomplished some big things.  And thus, “Take Stock of How You Rocked” was born.

I ADORE this idea. I think she should make T-shirts. There should be a one-day conference. Bumper stickers. I envision a movement, and a PARADE of red convertibles!

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My real “new year” happens in September. So I thought: Why not treat today as a New Years Eve of sorts, and list the things we rocked this year? I’ll go first, but you can do it too! Share in the comments if you’re feeling brave (I’d love to read them. I’m so encouraged by other people’s accomplishments – they makes the world seem bigger). Or make a private list. But take ten minutes to acknowledge that no matter what this year looked like, you rocked.

Here’s my list. Since last September I have…

-Created a new edition of my first book (available next week!)

-Designed a new website & blog

-Read 45 books.

-Taught writing as a Visiting Artist at Wheaton

-Loved a 4 year old foster daughter and learned about parenting, trauma, early childhood development, play therapy, and every cartoon on PBS.

-Recovered (mostly – still in progress) after losing her

-Written a first draft of a new memoir, 1/2 a novel, and most of a book on praying for a husband.

-Kept a 17 year old dog alive.

-Gone swimming almost every time I’ve gone to the beach this summer, no matter how FREEZING the water was. 

-Survived the past 12 months without losing my mind, my marriage, or my faith.

In Amy’s post, after she shared her list of things she’d rocked, she acknowledged, “This was an espe­cially inter­est­ing exer­cise for me given my ini­tial assess­ment that this had been a long hard year pri­mar­ily defined by failure.”

Wow, did that hit home.

And yet it’s weird to write this list. It feels like that obnoxious Facebook thing where people pretend their lives are butters summer vacation pre kcomprised solely of vacations, puppies, and endless professional success. And of course the list of things I’ve blown this year & that have broken my heart is twice as long.  But Gutman’s post challenged me not to over-correct, to steer around the trap of only sharing the hard parts, because that’s a mistake, too. (Especially if your sense of humor tends toward self-deprecation.  I once had a woman who met me after reading my books & blogs say,  “You know, you’re not nearly as dumb as I expected!” Probably time to stop setting the expectations bar quite so low :) )

We need balance, even though life is never really balanced. But it is a mix. The new job comes two weeks after the breakup, or an opportunity to try something unexpected lands in our in-box just as we’ve decided to spend the rest of our waking hours watching Bravo TV.  And in the swirl of daily living, we rock lots of things. We just lose sight of them afterwards. But they’re worth mentioning, and reflecting back on.

Today, take stock of what you’ve rocked. Then tell me about it :)


6 thoughts on “Taking Stock of How We Rocked

  1. Oh my gosh!! I just did this exercise last week because I in fact, felt like I had done nothing with the last year and a half since moving to NYC. I was surprised to see that my list of accomplishments was actually not so bad. Could I have been more productive, yes. But that does not diminish the good stuff that happened. I can’t claim to be anywhere near as productive as you (45 books?!) but here’s a partial of my list: ran my first 5k, became a regular volunteer at safe home for foreign national survivors of sex trafficking, had my first show in NYC, in which I played keys and used other funky equipment for the first time and learned how to get around New York. I’m also finally in progress for 3 new songs, to be released on iTunes later this year. Woot woot!! Now I don’t feel so bad that I’ve also seen seasons 1 and 2 of Downton Abbey, numerous times. :)

  2. I love this post Mrs. Ryan! I must say that listening accomplishments isn’t easy but here goes;

    1. I joined a new church after 2 years of wandering around in different churches. I knew it was time to get grounded & settled in a new church.

    2. Started a new novel.

    3. Made it a point to listen to some type of sermon to strengthen my Cheistian faith at least 4 times a week.

    4. Found a new hobby if doing my own makeup ( I used to pay people) It’s fun to create different looks & transform beauty into even greater beauty. (Smile)

    5. Found a job that l genuinely enjoy & thrive in.

    That’s all I can think of for now :)

  3. I love this post so much, Trish! And it’s so fascinating to be reminded of things I know — obviously I do since I wrote them, right? — and yet can so easily forget. I’m reminded of a line heard in 12-step rooms: “Take my advice–I’m not using it!” Another interesting thing, as I read your list–and those above–it drives home how INTERESTING we all are. In addition to reminding ourselves of our own strengths, it’s a great way to connect with others around theirs. We can connect around shared pain too–of course. But this way works as well. : )

  4. I love this post so much, Trish! It’s so interesting to be reminded of things I know–and I do know them right? Otherwise I couldn’t have written them–but have lost track of. I’m reminded of a line heard in 12-step rooms: “Take my advice! I’m not using it.” Also, as a side note, reading these lists–yours and the others above–I’m struck by how fascinating and strong we all are. So in addition to this being a way to remind ourselves of our own strengths, it can be a great way to connect with others.

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