Adoption: What We’ve Learned

If you’ve been here before you probably know that this summer marked the end of one aspect of our adoption: The hope that The Cherubs would consider us their Mom & Dad. Not their only parents, of course, but equally real to the others. We’ve given it four years of solid effort, but alas, no […]

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They’re Just Not That Into Us

This morning I tried to write the post I promised about what we’d do differently if we adopted again, but I couldn’t make it come together. I realized that I’m still WAY too angry that we weren’t given more accurate preparation to write that sort of advice quite yet. I’ll get there, but it’s a […]

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Two Realities, both of them true

It’s been awhile, huh? It’s been one of those odd seasons when it would be totally possible to sell you the lie that things are entirely wonderful. By social media standards, we have it all going on: Gorgeous Bathroom remodel! #1 Cherub working at his first job and crushing it! #2 Cherub away at expensive […]

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Father’s Day & 8th Grade Dance

We got through the weekend! Father’s Day tends to go better than Mother’s Day here, which I think is pretty typical in adoption. You just don’t have the whole Forced replacement of someone I loved who disappointed me factor with adoptive Dads.  Instead, Dads are like unicorns – something kids heard might be real but […]

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Sleep: A Love Story

When I was in law school, some students thought it was cool to brag about how they’d been up all night studying in their library carrels. A few even brought in pillows. In a moment of wisdom that was pretty rare for me back then, I thought, Wow, that is the dumbest thing I’ve ever […]

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How I decide what to write

Some of you reached out to check on us after my spate of candid posts about things we’re struggling with. I get it. It’s not typical to see this sort of honesty on the internet these days, especially in circumstances like ours where it would be possible to create an alternative reality online, painting our […]

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Stow the Broccoli

  One of my goals is to not hate my life. Inspiring, right? (Watch for my motivational stickers & t-shirts, coming soon!) When I’m in a good place, I shift the language and ask God to help me enjoy my life.  This requires a significant amount of Divine help…and some cooperation by me. Remember a […]

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